Ceremony Rituals

UNITY CROSS CEREMONY 

The Unity Cross Ceremony is a unique way to celebrate the joining of a bride and  groom together as one. It is a beautiful sculpture that is assembled during the wedding ceremony symbolizing a bride and groom becoming ONE in the body of Christ. The groom places the outer cross in the wood base. The bride then places the sculpted cross inside the outer cross. The Unity Cross can be displayed in the couple's home after the wedding ceremony as a reminder of their wedding day and the union they share.  

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UNITY SAND CEREMONY 

 Your wedding is the day we witness the commitment of two individual about to  start a new live together – a life as one heart beating in unison with the other. The desire to find and hold onto this Love runs deep in the human spirit – it’s probably why we cry at weddings. Weddings touch more than the hearts of the bride and groom – they touch us all. And one ceremony that best exemplifies this commitment of souls is the Unity Sand Ceremony. The blending of the colors symbolizes the bringing together of two lives into one. This ceremony is also an excellent way to include family members and children. You may purchase personalized sets with your names and wedding date on them and additional pouring vases can be purchased to include children.

 

UNITY CANDLE CEREMONY 

A Unity Candle Ceremony symbolizes two separate people and families becoming one and can easily be added to any marriage ceremony. It is placed near the end of the ceremony, following the Exchange of Rings. However, the mother's usually lights the two outer candles as they are escorted forward at the beginning of the ceremony.  A Unity Candle set consists of two slender candles (called tapers) and a large center candle. The Unity Candle Ceremony is a popular choice for both religious and non-religious ceremonies because it is non-denominational and has no religious significance. 

  

 

HANDS OF THE BRIDE & GROOM CEREMONY 

The Hands of the Bride and Groom ceremony is a beautiful and heartfelt ceremony   that is guaranteed to not to leave a dry eye among the couple and guests alike. The ceremony is typically done right after the exchange of rings. It can be done as a secular or religious element. Here is an excerpt from the beautiful ceremony -

 

"These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever . . .  And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch"

 

THE LOVE HEART LOCK & KEY CEREMONY  

 If you are looking for a unique add-on ceremony to include in your wedding, the Love Heart Lock Ceremony may be the perfect one! I had the opportunity to include this in a recent wedding that I performed and thought it was a visually beautiful way for a couple to symbolize the strength of their commitment to their marriage. Its origin is said to come from an ancient Chinese tradition, although it’s unclear if this is true. Regardless, it is a sweet, visible metaphor for demonstrating the couple’s dedication to remain joined together for the rest of their days.

 There are several ways the ceremony can be done. The couple can use a pair of heart locks that they padlock together on a single chain or, the couple can use a single lock and secure it to a permanent structure. Speak with your Officiate about the different ways this ceremony can be performed. 

  

CORD OF THREE STRANDS CEREMONY 

The Cord of Three Strands symbolizes the joining of one man and one woman by  God into a marriage relationship. Marriage takes three; you, your soon to be spouse, and God. It was God who taught us to love. By keeping Him at the center of your marriage, His love will continue to bind you together as one throughout your marriage. This ceremony is a great addition to a traditional wedding ceremony. It adds a truly unique element to your ceremony that friends and family will remember. It can also serve as a substitute for the unity candle. This is useful for situations where candles may not be used, or may be difficult. The Cord of Three Strands works well as a substitute in outside weddings.

"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." ~  Ecclesiastes 4:12

RING WARMING CEREMONY 

If you are looking for a unique element to add to your wedding  ceremony, incorporating a ring warming into your wedding is such a special way to involve all of your guests in your ceremony. A ring warming is when you give your loved ones the opportunity to hold and infuse your wedding bands with a wish, blessing or prayer for your marriage. By the time your rings make it on to your fingers they will be infused with all the love of your friends and family.

“Bride and groom will exchange rings as a physical symbol of the vows they are making to one another. As the ceremony proceeds, will the families of Bride and Groom please warm these rings by passing them down the row. As you hold them in your hands, pause for a moment, and make your wishes for the couple and for their future together before you pass them on to the next person. These rings will not only be a gift from one to another but will be given with the love, support and wisdom of their family and friends.”

ROSE CEREMONY FOR COUPLES 

The Rose Ceremony brings a touch of elegance, romance and beauty to your ceremony. The ceremony is usually held at the end of the ceremony, before being pronounced husband and wife. The bride and groom exchange two roses, symbolizing the giving and receiving of their love for each other throughout their entire married life. The Rose Ceremony also conveys how to use the rose and its symbolism in difficult times in order to forgive each other. You may choose to have the Officiant hand the bride and groom their roses, or the Officiant can invite the bride and grooms mothers up to give their children the roses. Red roses are usually used but a white rose can also be used. For a smaller wedding, couples may also choose to present roses to their guests as a "thank you" for sharing in their special day. This ceremony is adaptable for a vow renewal as well.

 

ROSE CEREMONY TO HONOR MOTHERS

The Mothers’ Rose Ceremony, which is also known as the Rose Presentation, takes place near the beginning of the ceremony, and is especially sweet and touching when it’s a surprise for the Moms! The couple places two roses with a ribbon tied around them and laid on the ceremonial table in the front. You can use any flower, however the Rose is a universal symbol of love and can be pressed really easily in a book for a keepsake. (Moms love to do this!) Usually the Ceremony Honoring Mothers comes just after the officiant’s welcome, and presentation of the couple will present the moms with the rose. The Officiant then tells the mothers how important they have been in the lives of their children. You may also write notes of love and gratitude, rolled up like scrolls, and attached to the roses with a ribbon. In these letters you can tell your mothers how much they mean to you, tell them how much they have contributed to your lives, and thank them.

 

REMEMBRANCES OF LOVED ONES

Your wedding day is the happiest day of your life. But for couples who have lost a loved one, the occasion can be bittersweet. It’s common to want to honor these people at the ceremony. But you might be wondering how to include meaningful gestures without casting a dark cloud over your special day. You want take a moment to remember these loved ones yet not detract from the spirit of the day. There are both verbal and non-verbal ways to honor deceased loved ones without turning your wedding into a sad day. There are several subtle but equally poignant ways to remember loved ones who have passed away. Talk to your officiant about ways that you can remember a loved one.

 

THE LAST KISS BEFORE THE FIRST KISS 

This ceremony is a creative and touching way to celebrate a special moment for the bride and groom and their mothers during the ceremony. This is a very tender and poignant – and sometimes emotional moment – for the mothers, the bride and groom and also for the guests. In the wedding ceremony just before the “first kiss” as husband and wife, the officiant calls the mothers of the bride and groom forward and says the following:

 "These mother’s lips were the first to kiss them and bring them into this world and today a mother’s love – together with their blessings – will be first to send them on their way to their new life together as husband and wife." Mothers. . . please kiss the Bride and Groom!

 

BREAKING OF THE GLASS CEREMONY 

The Jewish Glass Breaking Ceremony is an important part of the Jewish wedding and rich in symbolism. Although typically performed in the Temple, the ceremony can be held almost anywhere. The groom breaks the glass with his right foot at the conclusion of the Jewish wedding ceremony. It reminds us of the destruction of the Holy Temple. The breaking of glass also is a warning of the frailty of a marriage. That sometimes a single thoughtless act, breach of trust, or infidelity can damage a marriage in ways that are very difficult to undo – just as it would be so difficult to undo the breaking of this glass. Knowing that this marriage is permanent, the bride and groom should strive to show each other the love and respect befitting their spouse and love of their life. Once the glass is broken, the guests rejoice, ‘Mazel Tov!’ The shards of glass can be saved and placed in a piece of art and displayed in the bride and groom’s home. The shards of glass can be saved in a keepsake pouch as a memento. 


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