To First Look or Not to First Look? That is the Wedding Question

To First Look or Not to First Look? That is the Wedding Question
April 17, 2016

To First Look or Not to First Look? That is the Wedding Question

This is a wedding question that never used to exist. Tradition has always taught us that it is bad luck for a groom to see his bride before she walks down the aisle.

If you are not familiar with this somewhat new wedding trend, a First Look is when the wedding couple sees each other in their dress/suit/tux for the first time on their wedding day, but before the ceremony. Usually the groom stands in one spot while the bride comes up behind him and taps him on the shoulder. He turns around and … tada! There’s a beautiful bride standing there!

There are also variations of the First Look.  If you don’t want to see your partner until the ceremony, you can consider an “almost first look” where you and your partner can talk to each other between a door or some other divider, so you can’t see each other but your photographer can capture photos of the two of you. You can also do something a little different, with the bride standing still while the groom comes up behind her. I’ve also seen almost first looks where couples exchanged love letters or gifts, held hands, or simply talked with each other about how happy they were to be getting married in a couple hours! It is all very sweet and touching.

 As a couple, you should weigh the pros and cons together and decide what is best for you.

THE PROS

Not missing out on cocktail hour 

Doing a First Look 30 minutes to an hour before the ceremony will free up some time for bride and groom portraits and once you’re done, you can enjoy your cocktail hour without having to worry about missing out on mingling with your lovely guests, and as a result, your photographer can get more candid photos as well.

 

 

 Control

 First looks can be done anywhere. You have the option to choose the scenery/  backdrop and lighting. You can also choose the setting around you, whether you want to make it very intimate, just the two of you, or have the bridal party surround you, which can be very exciting and cheerful, as opposed to seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony, where you have no control over lighting and everything else around you.

 More time

From a time perspective, First Look photos provide more timeline benefits. More light for photos is a plus for many outdoor venues. Additionally, taking some photos together before the ceremony can smooth out the transition from ceremony to reception and allow the bride and groom to have more time to spend with their guests.

These factors are a bonus – however, should never be the sole basis for your decision as to whether to do first look photos or not. Here's a look at the pros and cons. 

 

THE CONS 

The Cons, however, are more emotional and much more personal: if you see your future spouse before the wedding, you won’t have that magical moment of seeing each other for the first time at the start of the ceremony.

First look wedding photos are not candid

A candid moment is something magical that happens when you think no one is watching. Like when the bride is walking down the aisle, all eyes are on her, even the photographer. The groom is left to react however he’d like. The truth comes out. It’s his moment. His and yours. And it’s truly candid.

You can stay in bed a little longer

Just think about it: you were up late at the rehearsal dinner the night before, you probably didn’t have the best sleep to begin with, and you have salon appointments scheduled from 9 til noon (or later!). Knowing you’re meeting your groom a few hours before the ceremony just cuts into your beauty rest, not to mention the time you’ll have to get ready with your best gals!

 The wedding is not just about YOU

Your ceremony, your grand entrance is not just about you.  It’s a culmination of months of effort on the part of friends and family. Your first look is about you seeing him seeing you. And it’s about everyone else seeing you seeing him seeing you. They are witnessing magic. It’s like a gift you give your guests: their smiles and tears as they look back and forth between you and him as you near the end of the aisle will be so worth it. Here’s a great quote from bride LadyMonk on WeddingWire:

 “I’m not doing a first look either. Can’t sacrifice that excited face and happy expression for just me — I want everyone to see how happy he looks!”

 

Finally, as a couple, it is your decision to weigh the pros and cons together and decide what is best for you. Always go with what your heart tells you, regardless of pressure from family, or your vendors.


Christina Mathews - 336-705-3239
Christina@abeautifuldaybychristina.com