Tips for Taking the Stress Out of Wedding Planning

Tips for Taking the Stress Out of Wedding Planning
October 26, 2017

Tips for Taking the Stress Out of Wedding Planning

Getting married is the ultimate symbol of love, devotion and unity — but it can also be stressful. In fact, a recent study found marriage ranked #7th as the most stressful life event, even more so than getting fired from your job. Planning a wedding doesn’t have to be stressful, however. You can relax and enjoy the process a little more by following the tips listed below.


Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute!

One of the most common sources of wedding-related stress is lack of time. If your big day is right around the corner and you still haven’t chose a venue, DJ, photographer, caterer, etc., you’ll naturally feel more stressed. On the other hand, if you take care of these tasks early on, you don’t have to worry them as you approach your wedding date.

Make a List

Rather than “winging” it, create a list of tasks you need to do when planning your wedding.  Create a to-do list for every month leading up to your wedding. As you complete these tasks, mark them off the list. Seeing what you’ve accomplished thus far and what you still have left should ease some of the stress associated with planning a wedding.

Create a Budget… and Stick with It

Another common cause of wedding-related stress is the cost. The average cost of a wedding in the United States is now more than $26,000. Of course, some weddings cost even more, especially if you buy products and services without a clear strategy. If you create a budget and stick with it, however, you’ll know exactly how much your wedding will cost.

Ask for Help

Remember, you don’t have to plan your wedding alone. In addition to asking your fiance for help, you can also seek assistance from your bridal party. 

Your Happiness Does not Lie Within Your Wedding

Okay, this is a BIG one. As a wedding planner who has worked with hundreds of brides, I understand fully the desire to have a picture perfect wedding day. This is the moment you have been eagerly waiting for since he popped the question and you said yes. But are you ready for some hard truth? Your happiness does not lie with your wedding. You heard me right. So often brides get so caught up with wedding planning and how they want to make sure their wedding is everything they imagined.  From details to the dress, their wedding day MUST be perfect. The truth is, the high expectations of wanting a perfect wedding will cause you to have more stress than you need. I'm not saying that it is wrong to want a perfect wedding, but your actual wedding itself is not the most important thing. The most important thing about your wedding day is that you are marrying your love, your best friend. The person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Brides can get so caught up in the whirlwind of planning that they forget why they are getting married in the first place. It isn't to host a great party or buy pretty dresses and shoes. It is so your can promise your love to the one whom your soul loves. That's what make for a perfect wedding. 

On my wedding day, the limo driver taking me to the church was MIA and group of my soon-to-be husbands uninvited buddies showed up to the reception and messed up my perfectly planned seating arrangement and then a guest passed out on the dance floor and the ambulance had to come take her away. (she was fine. Had a little too much to drink and got overheated). But you know what? Despite all of those little moments of non-perfectness, I look back on my wedding day with great joy. Because I got to marry my best friend. No wedding day disaster could have taken away from the love I felt radiating from my now husband, and from my family that were there to witness my marriage. 

So remember, your happiness isn't from your wedding day itself, it is from the love and union of you and your fiance. 

Christina Mathews - 336-705-3239