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Five Tips for Having a Ceremony that Rocks

Five Tips for Having a Ceremony that Rocks
January 9, 2018

Your wedding ceremony is the heart and soul of your wedding day. It's the part that makes you husband and wife. Your eremony will usually only last about 20 minutes. That’s just 20 minutes in the whole day! Right? Some couples think of their ceremony as just a formality before everyone can rush to the party. They often concentrate on planning the bigger events and leave the ceremony to the last minute.

For couples who want to start their marriage with a heartfelt and meaningful ceremony, here are 5 tips to having a Wedding Ceremony That Rocks:

 

1. Live in the Moment

20 minutes- that all and it will be over in the blink of an eye. Don’t let your mind wander to other things, or worrying about what comes next, like the cocktail or the reception setup. Live in this precious moment. You are marrying your best friend. The rest is of little or no importance in the big picture.

Tip: Have someone in charge to coordinate your wedding day, so you don’t have to worry about a thing and can concentrate on the ceremony.

2. Choose Your Officiant Wisely

Whether you want a religious or a civil (secular) wedding ceremony, the person who will officiate your ceremony is key. Choosing the right officiate can sometimes get overlooked during the wedding planning, but is an important detail not to forget. Your officiate is the faciliator of the most importat aspect of your wedding - the ceremony; and you will share an intimate moment in time together.  

Tip: the pace of the ceremony reading should be slow enough to leave you enough time to repeat each sentence in your head after hearing it. This allows time to involve your guests emotionally in your ceremony. Speaking of that…

3. Make It Personal

Your wedding ceremony should be personal, and should reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple. Whether you are religious, secular, spiritual, you should not settle with a ceremony that does not resonate with you. A good officiant will spend time with you to get to know your couple, to understand your beliefs, your values and what makes your bond unique.

Tip: not everyone is comfortable with sharing personal stories. Your officiate will know how to craft a ceremony that tells your story with as much or as little information you wish to share. You will always have final approval over the wedding ceremony script.

4. Include A Unity Ritual

The use of symbols is part of every wedding ceremony. Of course, symbols need not be universal in meaning but can be completely personal, as long as they strike a resonant chord in you, like a piece of jewelry belonging to a loved one, or a personal object that has special meaning to you. Symbols can also take the form of a ritual. Including a unity ritual in your wedding ceremony helps to represent the transition you are making into a married life and a commitment to each other.

Tip: don’t be shy about tweaking “traditional” unity rituals such as a unity candle ritual or a ring warming ceremony to make it yours. These rituals will engage your families and guests alike.  

5. Make It Fun

Laugh-Cry, during the vows. When the officiant talks, Be yourself. No one ever said you cannot crack a joke during your wedding ceremony. This your ceremony, your way.

Tip: you don’t want your wedding ceremony to be boring and your guests to be repeatedly looking away (or worst, at their phones) wondering when they’ll reach the bar. A ceremony can have a light, and sometimes humorous tone, and one your guests will listen to and better yet, they will remember.


Christina Mathews - 336-705-3239
Christina@abeautifuldaybychristina.com